Anger management

My wife recently attended a talk regarding anger management (see handouts). She said that the main takeaways were to prevent things from escalating and to talk things through. For example, putting into words why you're angry can help you cope with the anger better and also give others greater insight into why you're mad (and also make it less scary). I know one of the things that triggers my anger is when I have something in my head as going one way (particularly in terms of getting things done or having time for myself) and then things turning out completely different. In the Screwtape Letters, C.S. Lewis (via Screwtape) observes:

Men are not angered by mere misfortune but by misfortune conceived as injury. And the sense of injury depends on the feeling that a legitimate claim has been denied. The more claims on life, therefore, that your patient can be induced to make, the more often he will feel injured and, as a result, ill-tempered. Now you will have noticed that nothing throws him into a passion so easily as to find a tract of time which he reckoned on having at this own disposal unexpectedly taken from him ... Now he is not yet so uncharitable or slothful that these small demands on his courtesy are in themselves too much for it. They anger him because he regards his time as his own and feels that it is being stolen.

This is definitely my #1 anger trigger. There are so many things I want to do and seemingly so little time to get it all done.